A few months ago, I was talking to a coworker and she was telling me that her and her significant other had been together for a while, 3 years to be exact, and they had discussed getting married but nothing has happened yet.

I asked, “Is he ready?”

She replied, “Yes, he is ready, but I am the one who wants to wait.”

I said, “You have a great guy. Not too many black males are ready to settle down and start a life with the woman he loves.”

She said, “Yeah, he is my best friend. I love him to death and I would do anything for him, it’s just that I want to finish some goals that I have and I know that he will support me cause he has before, but I don’t want to be a burden.”

They both have good paying jobs, they are still young, and have their whole lives ahead of them.

I said, “Girl, if this young man is ready to marry you, then he knows and understands the responsibility that comes with being a husband. Do you realize how many women are waiting for this? Honey, a man knows within a year or two of dating or courtship if you are the one that he wants to spend the rest of his life with.Β It takes a year to get to know a person. I don’t think that you should rush but if you know that he’s the one that you want to spend the rest of your life with, then go ahead and get some premarital counseling.”

Listen to me offering advice, ha! I offer advice cause I know the mistakes that I have made.

Trust me, when I tell you a man knows if you are the one! It won’t take 7 years, Β 12 years, or 20 years for him to finally make the decision to be a man and make you his wife.



Happy Reading and Enjoy! Β πŸ™‚

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Β©Life may not go as you planned, but it is worth LIVING!-Alitha Hawkins







I am Zeb's wife. Shabre, Zeb Jr., Ashleigh, and Jayla's mother! I am a God fearing woman! I am Ruby's daughter! I AM PERFECTLY FLAWED!

10 thoughts on “He KNOWS!”

  1. I completely agree with you on every point you have made. Nobody should make the decision to marry until they have dated for at least a year but it doesn’t take much longer than that to know if you are with the person you want to spend the rest of your life with!!! Thank you for this post. I hope my guy knows πŸ’œ.

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  2. True. If her only holdout is that she has goals and doesn’t want to be a burden she needs to know that once she accomplishes those goals she will have other ones. That is what life is about and if you have a man that loves and supports you just marry him and watch him have your back.

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